Have you ever been in a friendship with a guy who you always saw platonic and never something more? Then all the sudden one day it hit you like a ton of bricks and you say to yourself, “what thefuckhow am I catching feels? This is not 6-7 vibes.” This mans couldn’t even be your type – or maybe he is?? Sometimes in life the best friendships or relationships develop on a soulful connection. You wonder if it was a moment of “Hmmm I mean we have deep talks” but then why aren’t you catching feels for your other guy friends. Being able to feel vulnerable with someone is extremely underrated. You could be attracted to someone and have a fun time but if you know deep down that you can’t be vulnerable with them, maybe reflect on that. So what is it that makes us fall? What’s the root?

Let’s start with Starshine’s story to relate – So.. I fell for my guy best friend in college and it hit me like a fucking truck. There was banter and it was harmless and fun, then all the sudden I couldn’t get him off my mind and all I wanted to do was jump on him. When my friends and I got drinks, me and him always would flirt but never anything more. There was build up and build up (sometimes it got hot) and I’m wondering, “Does he like me or does he like the attention?”

Fast forward a few drunk nights later, him and I go off to a bar and we talk. He asks me, “Do you like me? You treat me different from everyone else”. Starshine says, “No I don’t like you like that”. lol

To be honest, that was a massive lie to the root of my core. We had moments of tension that could literally be in the showThe Summer I Turned Pretty, but eventually he pulled the information out of me. Starshine said, “Ok yes I’m into you. There’s a lot I want to tell you but I can’t because it will ruin our friendship”. He smiled at me and that smile put me into a fucking trance.

This is what I am talking about it’s the little things these men do. It’s the smile that throws you off course and or a gesture he does. Backtrack to my story; Apparently he was into me but we both agreed that we want to stay friends because it’s for the best. 

At first it’s hard to be honest but take a moment to look at your future. Ask yourself these questions: Do I want him in my life? Is he someone I can be vulnerable with? If I was in a room full of people, would I look for him first?

Girl – be honest with him and stop pretending you’re happy for him when he goes on those damn Hinge dates. He honestly could like you back. He could end up being the love of your life but the only thing holding you back is fear. Even if he doesn’t feel the same it doesn’t mean that he lacks emotion for you, he’s just not that into you HAHA.Which is okay!!

Once you step out of that fear surrounding the emotion we call love, it can be the most beautiful emotion that not a lot of humans get to experience. Throw away that pride that all of us girlies have. Plus, if your life is lacking romance drama, it’s the perfect way to throw some in there. Make it so that when you’re talking about boys you could imagine being on a reality television show.